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Unbecoming, unconditioning, and unlearning. Shedd

Unbecoming, unconditioning, and unlearning. Shedding is such a big part of motherhood for me, and for many mothers, I believe. Our children come into this world connected and when we really listen and trust their own intuition we realize how disconnected we are from our own “knowing” at times. How our true knowing is covered over by cultural conditioning, familial conditioning, and schooling conditioning. The parenting journey has me question all that I thought and believed, and accepted “was just the way it is.” I am realizing so much doesn’t have to be “the way it is supposed to be,” including education, family dynamics, “discipline” (don’t even like that word because it means to obey, which comes with some much baggage and it’s own belief system). When Garrison says “no I don’t like that - no that doesn’t feel right to me.” I think “ahhh yes something is here!” Yes he is saying “mom you know it doesn’t feel right even if it is a cultural ‘supposed to.’” These moments cause me to question and ask “do I really believe this anymore?” This constant reflection and questioning of the “shoulds,” “norms,” and beliefs, I believe is the process of un-becoming or Becoming who I truly am. Through the un-becoming, unschooling, and reconditioning - my intention is to let the authentic ME - that has always been there but maybe covered over at times - shine through. #unbecomingtobecome #authenticity #consciousparenting #unschooling #unschoolingfamily

❤️❤️❤️ Lunch Date...Spending days with

❤️❤️❤️ Lunch Date...Spending days with this guy fills my heart even when I am chasing him down the slopes just trying to keep up. 🏂 #loveyou The constant reminder to slow down and enjoy every moment - a lesson I very much needed lately. #thereisalwaysalesson

Apparently, I need to learn how to swing! Garrison

Apparently, I need to learn how to swing! Garrison teaching me “proper” swinging technique. 😉😁 Little people love to teach us in subtle ways through mirroring, and also give us lessons about things they have mastered. I see how empowered he feels to instruct me and have me do it like he is showing me to. Maybe, I even did get a bit higher following all his instructions. 😉 And one wonderful benefit is Swinging is very therapeutic. I learned just a few years ago that swinging does help with anxiety and calming our nervous system. No wonder kids and adults find peace in swinging. It has always been an activity that has brought Garrison calm and pure joy. I truly enjoy it when we go to the park, I get a swinging lesson and we swing high next to each other for a while. 💕 #joyfulmovement #consciousparenting #thereisalwaysalesson #unschoolinglife #unschooling

Who is the teacher? Student? 😁This is so very t

Who is the teacher? Student? 😁This is so very true for my experience of parenting and evolving. I do see Garrison and the bonus “kids” in my life as my teachers, and they surely have been. Seeing all the kids in my life (well it extends to all people I interact with) as guides and as holders of profound wisdom and lessons has been transformative to say the least. Transformative not only in parenting but in growing as a human being - shedding what no longer serves my highest good and releasing old beliefs or systems to reveal a more authentic life. This view definitely calls into question and even removes the old paradigm of hierarchy in our parenting relationships. This view of mutual teacher and student also is very supportive for our homeschooling/unschooling journey together. Got this great photo from @robingrille thank you! #consciousparenting #consciousnessshift #unschooling

I have realized this to be true time and time agai

I have realized this to be true time and time again. My outer reality is a reflection of my inner reality. The challenges or joys I witness or experience in my outer life tend to have an origin within my own belief system and with what I am experiencing in my heart as a result of my thoughts and beliefs about any given situation. This applies to everything and in particular parenting. When we are not experiencing joy or we are feeling extra triggered by dynamics or behavior, it isn’t about our child. It is about US! When we are in true inner peace then we view our children and all their goodness, EVEN when they are screaming, throwing, not listening to us etc😁. We allow them to be free, we have peace, and stop controlling them because from our place of peace we constantly see their goodness. When we feel chaotic inside, out of control, fearful, and have lack of awareness of our unhealed pasts - we view the external and our children through that same lens of lack. We try to control, fix, change, and judge. We think it is about them and if they just do this or that, or say “please,” or behave a certain way things will be better or different. But really it is US. It is US who needs to shift - it US who needs to evaluate to find our own peace. It is not anyone on the outside who needs to change to make us feel better. The peace, calm and joy we are looking for can only be found within ourselves. Our children, our spouse, our partners, our parents, our friends - they cannot provide this for us if we don’t first provide it for ourselves. We are the beacons of our own inner peace and we hold the keys to finding peace on the outside, when we stop looking for it to come from the outside. My take away lately is it is us who decides whether our relationship with our children are filled with joy or strife. ❤️ And thank you to @suzi.lula for her wisdom and guidance. You have always guided me to look within! 💜 ❤️ #thereisalwaysalesson #consciousparenting #michaelbrownpresenceprocess #intentionalparenting #peacefulparenting #unschoolingfamily

More gratitude...not only because staying in Grati

More gratitude...not only because staying in Gratitude is helping me find my way through this dark time in history but simply because I am so grateful for our family unit (all those pictured above AND those who are not pictured. We have a large blended unit and getting all of us in one place and getting a picture of all of us is challenging and rare). We did our first professional family photo shoot since our wedding. 😲 It was cold and windy, but everyone was a trooper. I promise next time we do a photo shoot it will be warm and not so windy, and hopefully it doesn’t take 8 years for us to do it again. However, Little G swears he is boycotting any future photo shoots. This was good practice for when we have the whole unit together - All four “kids,” all their significant others, our grandson, and us. Grateful they all put up with it and did it with a smile. Most of all I am grateful I am part of this blended family with lots of bonus parts. This unit is my rock, my heart, and are certainly the people who guide my path, help me grow in the deepest and most profound ways. Cheers to staying in gratitude...to ride this wave of energy right now...💕. Working hard to maintain my own inner peace.
#gratitude
#emotional self-care

We can all make a difference. Every time we serve

We can all make a difference. Every time we serve with a heart full of love and grace we are shifting and creating ripples in the Universe. It is so true and I love this reminder. So often we hold ourselves back because we think we need this degree or that certificate to make a difference or to help others. Our culture perpetuates that belief system that we must “do,” achieve, or do something of recognition to be great or make a difference. That is not true. Our greatness is our unique essence. When we serve from our essence with love in our heart the greatness of our soul shines through, and the Universe surely feels it. #mlkquotes #servewithlove

Martin Luther King Jr. - His words speak the Ultim

Martin Luther King Jr. - His words speak the Ultimate Truth. Love and light will transform darkness. Let’s take it upon ourselves to only spread love and light, so we can drive out hate. #mlkday #loveandlight

I do see parenting as a practice. It is a practice

I do see parenting as a practice. It is a practice of daily reflection, moment-to-moment mindfulness, and slowing down to attune to ourselves and the little people we have been blessed with. It is a process of growing ourselves up and getting out of our child’s way. It isn’t easy. We want to control. We want it all to look a certain way. We have so many expectations. But as we go along releasing control and expectations we are able to grow with our child. I have to remind myself that the easy way is not always the most ideal way. It is a marathon. It can’t be rushed. And most of all I need to remember it will push me to limits and tear down beliefs I have held to be true but maybe aren’t true for me anymore. And this path will help me see the world through his eyes and in a new way. Connection, self-reflection, and more connection. Constant Reminder - It isn’t always easy. It takes great intention and self-reflection but in the end hopefully we have grown into more aware beings, have grown a deep lasting connection and partnership with our children. 💕 And just maybe we have left a ripple effect in the world that results in a more compassionate and peaceful place. #conciousparenting #intentionalparenting #handinhandparenting #Repost @hand_in_hand_parenting with @get_repost
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It's definitely not the "easy" way. And it's not permissive, or soft. What connected parenting gives you is deep understanding of your child's innerworld, emotions and behavior. And yours. And that's what moves you from automatic reactivity - yelling, punishing, and threatening, taking away “privileges”, blaming, and other mainstream control methods, to compassionate inquiry and the desire to reconnect with your child. In this new post, author of Conscious Parenting of Your Toddler and Hand in Hand Instructor @mihaelapl shares ways you can move away from reactivity and anger. Start with exploration, she suggests and begin with these two questions. How do you feel about anger?
How do you feel about your toddler’s anger? There's plenty more actionable strategies - and some great questions in the post. You'll find the link in our bio today. 👆

I love this! What a great reminder from @kellynews

I love this! What a great reminder from @kellynewsomegeorges.
We are conditioned to think we must earn our self-care or even earn love for that matter. But our love, self-love and self-care is not conditional on what we “do” but just by our being. By giving ourselves consistent self-care we can give from a full tank, and bring more nurturing and compassion out towards our children, others, and the world. #Repost @kellynewsomegeorges with @get_repost
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Let me tell you a secret: you don’t have to earn self-care. You don’t have to suffer before you do something that feels good. You don’t have to work hard to have a rest. You don’t have to stay up all night (although #newmomlife) to take a nap. You don’t have to push yourself to the max to hit pause regularly. You 👏🏽 don’t 👏🏽 have 👏🏽 to👏🏽have 👏🏽 a 👏🏽 breakdown 👏🏽 before you take a break. In fact, the more regular your care rituals, the more often you’ll feel like the highest, calmest, most resilient and joyful and aligned, version of yourself. And the more clearly you’ll see you big, beautiful, messy mama life. You can give more to others, more sustainably, from your full and centered place, yes. But you get to take care of yourself, mama - just because you EXIST. 🛑 Full stop. #selfcareformoms
#motherhoodishard #momminainteasy #momlife #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodunplugged #mamasgetreal #youareworthy #selfcarefirst #youdeserveit

One item always at the top of my daily gratitudes

One item always at the top of my daily gratitudes is having this man in my life. He is one of my safe places. And when I get trapped in old negative thought patterns, he never shames me or sees the worst in me, he looks at me and reminds me of my True Divine Essence.
#Gratitude
#emotionalselfcare
Photo Credit - @vallentynephotography 💕
Gratitude Practices...
I noticed the last several weeks and months I was getting sucked into old negative thoughts and swept up by some of the negative and divisive energies that have been so pervasive in the collective recently. It is an icky feeling and not a place where I like to operate from. It blocks our/my ability to see the essence in everything - to see past the facades we use out of fear and lack of love. I knew it was in my power to shift my inner perception. One practice I use to shift my perceptions is a gratitude. I am always reminded each time I recommit to my gratitude journaling and how powerful it is in shifting my inner world, thoughts, and patterns. When we are in the vibration of gratitude, we simply cannot be in the energy of judgement/self-judgment or negativity. The two vibrations just can’t coexist; gratitude is it’s antidote. It isn’t that I stop myself from feeling. I still allow myself space to feel those emotions that aren’t the most comfortable, aka anger, sadness, hurt, frustration, etc (I know from much experience stuffing those unsavory feelings down or covering them over with positive talk just delays the inevitable). However, with the gratitude practices incorporated in my day I actually find I am less swayed by the external energies, I can shift into self-compassion and compassion for others more smoothly than when I am not consistent with my gratitude practices or emotional self-care practices. I wish I could say I am always in gratitude and my emotional self-care practices don’t fall off at times. But I am human and even when I know that a practice will assist me and helps day in and day out, I still sabotage my own inner peace and fall in the traps of conditioned patterns, especially under overwhelming circumstances and prolonged periods of stress. I imagine this is true for so many.

Such Truth...in the vibration of unconditional lov

Such Truth...in the vibration of unconditional love the possibilities are limitless and the blocks that keep us stuck as individuals and as a collective can be dissolved. ♥️ The power of love is what creates change, not power. It starts with showing ourselves the unconditional love we have always needed. Then bringing that experience we have integrated ourselves outward, towards the new generations showing them unconditional acceptance and love, and then from there it will spread like wild fire bringing about more interactions that are focused on understanding, connection, and peace. It starts in each one of our hearts. 💕. #Repost @mindfullittles with @get_repost
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💔If you are hurting right now, wherever you are - we see you. We stand with you. We are sending you all of our love & peace from the bottom of our hearts.❤️
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#MindfulLittles #JimiHendrixQuote #JimiHendrix #LoveofPower #PowerOfLove #QuoteOfTheDay #Quotestagram #NoJusticeNoPeace #PeaceOnEarth #PeaceandLove #Love #Peace #QuotesToLiveBy #quotestoinspire

As I/We placed our vote this weekend my prayer rem

As I/We placed our vote this weekend my prayer remained/s the same as it was four years ago. This is a country founded upon the concept of unity, so much so that the word “United” was picked for our country’s name. A country that was founded by men with different political views, and at the same time respected one another and connected in the values of UNITY and connectedness, which run through all the tenants they laid out for us in this experimental democracy. We are interconnected not because we are Americans, but because we are humans that choose to be Americans because of what this democracy stands for. My deepest prayer is that we heal and come together again, “one nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.” Two men who have held the highest office in this country representing different parties, with very different political views, have stated the value of unity that runs deep in our principles, better than I can... “Too often, we judge other groups by their worst examples – while judging ourselves by our best intentions. And this has strained our bonds of understanding and common purpose. But Americans, I think, have a great advantage. To renew our unity, we only need to remember our values. We have never been held together by blood or background. We are bound by things of the spirit – by shared commitments to common ideals.” George W. Bush There is not a liberal America and a conservative America – there is the United States of America. There is not a black America and a white America and Latino America and Asian America … there’s the United States of America.” – Barack Obama I hold these statements in my heart and send them out as light to all beings- we are United - nothing can divide us not even labels, politics, ethnicity, or anything else - the values and the spirits of our beings are the proof we are forever in unity internally, just waiting to be manifested on the external. #vote2020 #unity #unityconsciousness #liberty

Sibling Seflies!! Big Sisters teaching G how to do

Sibling Seflies!! Big Sisters teaching G how to do good backseat Selfies. We miss them! ❤️💜❤️ #familytrip #kikibirthday #missfamily❤️

Please read Shaka Senghor’s words below. (And Mo

Please read Shaka Senghor’s words below. (And More in comments)
#Repost @shakasenghor
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I was 15 years old on this photo and one year away from a Suicide attempt. By this time in my life I had experienced child abuse, addiction to Crack Cocaine, and homelessness. I had been robbed at gun point, sexually engaged with adult women and beat nearly to death. This was during an era in my life when I should have been enjoying fun times in high school, going to homecoming dances and celebrating life with kids my age. Instead I was internalizing abuse, processing trauma and thinking about ending my life. Sadly and unfortunately I was not alone. My story is the story of many young black boys growing up in cities across this country. We are seduced into drug or gang culture and unceremoniously introduced into the world of adult dysfunction in ways that are deeply traumatizing. These traumatic early childhood experiences leave deep scars, shatter our self esteem and destroy our self worth. I mean how can you feel value, when you are treated like trash by adults? It took me years of unlearning the narrative that said I was unlovable and valueless. I journaled, meditated and used affirmations to let the little boy in this picture know that he was worthy of love and goodness. I reimagined a world for him that didn’t include abuse and trauma, and became the adult he needed in his life back then. It’s the very reason that I mentor and parent the way I do. Young black boys deserve to know love, happiness and joy. They deserve to have dreams, goals and a vision for their life that doesn’t come on the other side of gunshot wounds and long prison sentences. Most importantly they deserve to be children for as long as possible, like any other child. We cannot have a world of peace and love without loving our young boys enough to ensure their childhoods are peaceful. I believe that this intentional way of loving is the cure to misogyny, gun violence and mass incarceration. A boy who experiences healthy love, will one day become a man who leads with love! #writingmywrongs #letterstothesonsofsociety

Happy Birthday G! ❤️ The Force is With You,

Happy Birthday G! ❤️ The Force is With You, Always!
You shine bright sharing your heart and soul with us. You share your joy, passion, and wisdom freely and brighten all around you. The force is within you - I wish for you to always feel it, connect with it, and share it as you do! He is growing up way too fast, however, I look forward to watching him in his peaceful states, in his passionate states, and all the states in between for all the years to come! He is a guide and reflector like no other - and nudges me each and every day to be aware and to keep expanding/growing for my own sake and for his. I am extra grateful on his birthday for him and the soul he his, but truly grateful for the opportunity to be a part of his life each and every day. ❤️ I still just love watching him sleep...never gets old...
#happybirthday
#latergram
#postbirthdaypost🎈

“The way that we relate to children on the whole

“The way that we relate to children on the whole is the most powerful engine for what changes the future. As children are treated with less violence and abuse on a large scale, inescapably the next generation becomes less and less violent.” - Robin Grille The more we hear, see, and empathize with our children we help create a more compassionate world. I truly believe that. When we have been shown true compassion, we then are able to go out and spread compassion to others because we have true integrated experience of the power of empathy and compassion. But if it is not modeled and provided in childhood then it may not come about naturally in adulthood. Let’s show great empathy towards children, show them we see them, hear them, and understand. So when they grow up they will not stand for injustice, insensitivities, and will want a world that reflects their inner state...peace! That is my hope and dream, which starts with us adults as we relate to the next generations. And it depends on the values and social ideals we embody day in and day out. [Photo/quote creation credit to @hand_in_hand_parenting handinhandparenting.com] #robingrille
#parentingforapeacefulworld
#parentsasactivists
#handinhandparenting
#consciousparenting
#compassion
#empathy

“Each person’s sovereignty is interdependent a

“Each person’s sovereignty is interdependent and interconnected with everybody else’s. We are all part of a larger whole, and everything we do affects each other.” Everyday Blessings by Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn This quote seems extremely pertinent with the state of affairs in the world and for humanity...As I reflect on this quote in that light, I have come to believe that sovereignty and empowerment for women, people of color, and all that may not live full sovereignty is related to how we live and how we raise the next generation of boys and girls. So I am putting out my commitments to this next generation so that I may be accountable for them. I am committed to modeling and honoring for Little G that ALL people, races, genders, religions, and sexualities are equal and are accepted. I am committed to modeling that no one is better than any another. And to exemplify the interdependentness of all beings so he knows his actions and beliefs not only impact himself but all beings. I commit to nurturing and honoring his uniqueness and oneness, and at the same time remind him that his uniqueness (and specialness in my bias parental eyes) makes him no better than girls, no better than people of other colors, and furthermore to honor that his skin color and gender has given him an advantage he may not fully realize. Most of all we must embody these principals for him - I am committed to this and grateful that raising the next generation raises my awareness and accountability to another level, knowing what I believe, what I model, and what I live authentically is what G will carry with him and use to form his own beliefs and the way he chooses to live and treat others. All in the name of sovereignty, liberation, and love for all. #awakening
#sovereignty
#interdependentness
#compassion
#equality
#awakenedparenting
#consciousparenting

#challengeaccepted #womensupportingwomen #authent

#challengeaccepted #womensupportingwomen
#authenticity
For all the amazing women out there, and those women that I am blessed to be inspired by, guided by, and journey along side with in this lifetime. And for the little girls and young ladies, that are the women of the future - I wish you true authenticity and sovereignty, and that we may pave the way for you! ❤️ Thank you @schoolforbetterliving and @triciamowen for this. You are a guiding light and blessed to call you a friend and soul sister! 💕

Yes, yes, yes!! #thereisalwaysalesson #brenebrownq

Yes, yes, yes!! #thereisalwaysalesson #brenebrownquotes #brenebrown

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