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Thank you @jaiinstituteforparenting for this post

Thank you @jaiinstituteforparenting for this post and recognition!! 💞
I value everything I learned and integrated through the @jaiinstituteforparenting program 💕
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Arianna Chernove Messplay is a former lawyer, who left the legal practice to immerse herself in parenting and parent coaching full-time. ⁠
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Arianna is a Certified Conscious Parenting Coach, who supports parents in nurturing their connection with their children by helping them awaken to their own needs, awakening to their child’s needs, and nurturing their own self-compassion to help them foster attuned loving connections with themselves and with their children. Further, Arianna’s approach comes from the view that all her clients are Whole and have the answers within.⁠
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Her role is to guide them to the answers within by viewing parenting and personal challenges as growth opportunities and opportunities to connect more deeply with themselves. Arianna is deeply empathic and intuitive and these gifts make her clients feel felt, seen, and heard and help them feel into their own intuitive guidance.⁠
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You can connect with Arianna at her website: www.awakenedheartparenting.com⁠
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My journey thus far has strengthened my belief tha

My journey thus far has strengthened my belief that we have come to this place at this time to learn soul lessons, to grow in our experiences, to expand to new heights, and to embody and understand our essence that is beyond our physical body. The practice of contacting my Inner Counselor - connecting with my soul guidance and inner wisdom has been a profound step in my awakening. This technique I learned from Suzi Lula and Dr. Mary and Ron Hulnick. It puts me at peace. The voice that guides me in this practice is an all nurturing loving presence. Her wisdom always moves me and helps me see myself more fully no matter the obstacle or question I am connecting with her about. All this to say, this practice has brought me a deeper connection within myself, with myself, and with my own wisdom. It is so empowering …I encourage you to try this kind of practice to connect with your Inner Counselor - you will be moved and transformed by that loving nurturing wisdom that resides within you - just seconds away. 💜 #innercounselor #thereisalwaysalesson #spiritualpsychology

G’s Birthday! On his birthday, I love celebratin

G’s Birthday! On his birthday, I love celebrating his vibrant spirit, heart, and soul. He has taught me so much in his 8 revolutions around the sun (plus in the womb). He is a profound teacher and full of daily lessons that I am forever grateful for. His current enthusiasm for soccer, country flags, spirituality, and simply his curiosity are so inspiring. His topics of affection may change but his depth for each thing he is into is always so expansive and filled with a deep desire to learn and figure this world out. I am beyond grateful that he chose us to share his life with him and be part of his journey. We are always growing and evolving together. That intention to grow together gets more deeply rooted when these kinds of days come around and bring about even more reflection and gratitude for his soul being here and shining bright in this world! Just filled with love and gratitude when his special day rolls around 💞🥳⚽️#love #birthdays

My greatest teacher, G, essentially expressed this

My greatest teacher, G, essentially expressed this concept and truth about love. Then a few days later I came across this quote again. Hmmm….🧐…the Universe is really emphasizing through all the guides, stackers and situations the greatest lesson for me right now is really about my capacity for self-love and self-compassion. Working on it… At first, it was hard for me to accept that we cannot love others more than we love ourselves. But time and time again experiences arise in mothering and relationships that so blindly reflect to me how this statement is true. And G has reflected it to me directly and indirectly countless times (as I have shared) I can no longer act like this fact about love is not true. And Brene Brown and G are right - love is a feeling, it is an energy that runs through all of us, and we must be open to it. We put up so many blocks to love that we don’t realize - all out of protection - but our protection keeps us from truly experiencing what love is - something that words truly can’t describe - a Connection with hearts full and unguarded. I am learning that the way to this loving capacity is truly through nurturing myself, the connection with myself, connection with Spirit, and self-compassion. Oh how I wanted it to be an easier and different answer…😂💞 #love #brenebrownquotes #brenebrown #selfcompassionjourney #parentingasaspiritualpractice #thereisalwaysalesson

A few weeks ago G said to me “love is a feeling

A few weeks ago G said to me “love is a feeling not words.” He is so so right. “I love you” is just empty phrase if the essence of the words aren’t part of a felt experience.💞
We know when someone loves us by the way they hold space for us, when they look at us through loving eyes, when their words are backed with loving kindness - we FEEL it. G was making a great point that “love you” is a phrase we use as an attempt to put words to a feeling that actually words cannot accurately articulate. 💕
I think on a deeper level G was acknowledging that he knew I wasn’t feeling much love for myself lately. I have been very hard on myself, my mothering, my choices, my very existence. He could feel I was not loving myself but ridiculing myself constantly. And the wise guy knows that if I am not loving myself than the love I am offering him is a bit empty because it is coming from an empty tank that I am not filling with my own self-love and self-compassion. I can tell him I love him but won’t mean anything unless it is felt through heart-to-heart connection and resonance. Now - knowing he is so aware of this, I ask myself at night “do I think G felt loved today? Did I give from a full tank today?” And sometimes the answer is “absolutely no way he had the felt experience of love - I was a a total disaster and in my head etc.” And other nights I can acknowledge myself that “yes I think he did have the felt experience of love from me - my tank was full and I am sure he could sense that.” I don’t ask this to beat myself up like I was for several months but to really hold myself accountable for connecting with my Inner Child daily, and giving myself the nurturing and self-compassion I need to give from a full tank and open-heart. 💜
It is hard to really face this painful stuff within me at times. I am acknowledging myself for not shying away from these very scary and dark places because only through the darkness can the light shine through. I do it for me and for the health of my connection with G, Gary, and others in my life - My highest intention is to grow in my capacity to love. And I know the way to that is facing all the blocks to love that may exist within me.

We followed G’s deep passion for soccer to the G

We followed G’s deep passion for soccer to the Gold Cup final. It was an experience of many dimensions. Not only was it exciting soccer but it was a lesson in so much for all of us. We got to witness and personally experience the true human spirit of generosity, graciousness, love, and compassion among strangers, strangers of different cultures, and even among fans rooting for rival teams. It was an experience for me looking into a strangers eyes having the meeting of minds and meeting of souls without words, just knowing “we are in this together and we are connected.” Without major details the love and sportsmanship shown to us surrounded by opposing fans broke open my heart. I was brought to tears by the love and graciousness shown during a challenging moment in the day to strangers around us, to us, and to G. G was so moved by it and taken aback by the deep humanity and interconnectedness we experienced that day that he even painted his toes in Mexico’s colors. He said “this is a thank you for all the nice people I met.” It just goes to show choosing open hearts, kindness, generosity and the belief in our interconnectedness even admist a huge soccer rivalry is vital, and I believe will change this world. These simple moments change people and maybe can change humanity for generations to come…one moment, one experience at a time… We cheered for both teams because while we are different countries we are all one in the same - we are all connected in love and our shared humanity. Humanity was at its brightest that day for us… 💞🇲🇽🇺🇸⚽️#thereisalwaysalesson #love #compassion #connection

Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto from Brene Brown

Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto from Brene Brown @brenebrown. I have it printed and sitting on my desk and night stand, as a reminder of my parenting intentions. Love all of Brene’s work and this manifesto is a great reminder of how to bring vulnerability, courage, and worthiness into parenting - well that is the reminder it serves for me. It reminds me that my “mistakes,” my imperfections, my ability to be vulnerable, and my ability to be authentic is where both G and I grow the most and what deepens our connection. Modeling my own self-acceptance, own worthiness, self-care, and self-love is what he will learn from even more than my words and that is what shows him he can be fully himself and accept all of who he is (even the parts others might not appreciate). I pray as I progress deeper and deeper into the journey of life and the parenting journey that I embody this manifesto more and more. #intention #wholeheartedliving

Tears, like the rain, are cleansing. The deep emot

Tears, like the rain, are cleansing. The deep emotional release that comes from shedding tears, in my experience can leave you much more expansive. It seems to move unconscious and conscious energies that are calling to be acknowledged and/or released. I have observed this for myself, with G, and others I have been blessed to hold space for. Tears are encouraged - happy tears, sorrowful tears, tears of anger, tears of grief, and simply just tears when we don’t even know why - they are cleansing something for us and nurturing growth. 💜. Repost from @suzi.lula
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“When you're crying, it's that sensitive part of you is "crying out" to be heard, to be seen. We're sensitive beings AND WE SHOULD BE! Sensitivity is a gift of the feminine. Tears can lead you back to your Spirit, to your Soul. Tears have messages for you and can be so cleansing! Holding space for your tears and / or the tears of another - especially our children - is equally as cleansing! When you practice Soul Care, you give yourself time and space for those cleansing tears to come. Allow yourself to cry and let your heart listen for the messages that they bring.” #SuziLula #MotherhoodEvolution #SelfLove #SelfCare #SoulCare #TearsSpeak #SeekWisdom #Meditation #FeminineGifts #Consciousness #Compassion #SelfCompassion

💜 Always loveable, no matter what! Nothing and

💜 Always loveable, no matter what! Nothing and no one can change your Loveability! It can be hard to believe this sometimes when we get wrapped in negative self-talk and self-judgements that are so engrained. My deepest prayer is that I have made and continue to make Garrison feel his Loveability - and that he knows his Loveability never changes, no matter what. And I know that for him to really feel that unconditionality of my love - I have to embody it for myself - otherwise he may not really believe that his Loveability is unconditional and truly tied to nothing external. I have the same prayer/intention for the adult children in my life and those I encounter. It takes daily practice around this belief for me. My work in this lifetime is truly believing in my Loveability, so I can send it outwards. 💞

Yogurt date before Band Practice. 💞 #thesimplet

Yogurt date before Band Practice. 💞 #thesimplethings #connection

Unbecoming, unconditioning, and unlearning. Shedd

Unbecoming, unconditioning, and unlearning. Shedding is such a big part of motherhood for me, and for many mothers, I believe. Our children come into this world connected and when we really listen and trust their own intuition we realize how disconnected we are from our own “knowing” at times. How our true knowing is covered over by cultural conditioning, familial conditioning, and schooling conditioning. The parenting journey has me question all that I thought and believed, and accepted “was just the way it is.” I am realizing so much doesn’t have to be “the way it is supposed to be,” including education, family dynamics, “discipline” (don’t even like that word because it means to obey, which comes with some much baggage and it’s own belief system). When Garrison says “no I don’t like that - no that doesn’t feel right to me.” I think “ahhh yes something is here!” Yes he is saying “mom you know it doesn’t feel right even if it is a cultural ‘supposed to.’” These moments cause me to question and ask “do I really believe this anymore?” This constant reflection and questioning of the “shoulds,” “norms,” and beliefs, I believe is the process of un-becoming or Becoming who I truly am. Through the un-becoming, unschooling, and reconditioning - my intention is to let the authentic ME - that has always been there but maybe covered over at times - shine through. #unbecomingtobecome #authenticity #consciousparenting #unschooling #unschoolingfamily

❤️❤️❤️ Lunch Date...Spending days with

❤️❤️❤️ Lunch Date...Spending days with this guy fills my heart even when I am chasing him down the slopes just trying to keep up. 🏂 #loveyou The constant reminder to slow down and enjoy every moment - a lesson I very much needed lately. #thereisalwaysalesson

Apparently, I need to learn how to swing! Garrison

Apparently, I need to learn how to swing! Garrison teaching me “proper” swinging technique. 😉😁 Little people love to teach us in subtle ways through mirroring, and also give us lessons about things they have mastered. I see how empowered he feels to instruct me and have me do it like he is showing me to. Maybe, I even did get a bit higher following all his instructions. 😉 And one wonderful benefit is Swinging is very therapeutic. I learned just a few years ago that swinging does help with anxiety and calming our nervous system. No wonder kids and adults find peace in swinging. It has always been an activity that has brought Garrison calm and pure joy. I truly enjoy it when we go to the park, I get a swinging lesson and we swing high next to each other for a while. 💕 #joyfulmovement #consciousparenting #thereisalwaysalesson #unschoolinglife #unschooling

Who is the teacher? Student? 😁This is so very t

Who is the teacher? Student? 😁This is so very true for my experience of parenting and evolving. I do see Garrison and the bonus “kids” in my life as my teachers, and they surely have been. Seeing all the kids in my life (well it extends to all people I interact with) as guides and as holders of profound wisdom and lessons has been transformative to say the least. Transformative not only in parenting but in growing as a human being - shedding what no longer serves my highest good and releasing old beliefs or systems to reveal a more authentic life. This view definitely calls into question and even removes the old paradigm of hierarchy in our parenting relationships. This view of mutual teacher and student also is very supportive for our homeschooling/unschooling journey together. Got this great photo from @robingrille thank you! #consciousparenting #consciousnessshift #unschooling

I have realized this to be true time and time agai

I have realized this to be true time and time again. My outer reality is a reflection of my inner reality. The challenges or joys I witness or experience in my outer life tend to have an origin within my own belief system and with what I am experiencing in my heart as a result of my thoughts and beliefs about any given situation. This applies to everything and in particular parenting. When we are not experiencing joy or we are feeling extra triggered by dynamics or behavior, it isn’t about our child. It is about US! When we are in true inner peace then we view our children and all their goodness, EVEN when they are screaming, throwing, not listening to us etc😁. We allow them to be free, we have peace, and stop controlling them because from our place of peace we constantly see their goodness. When we feel chaotic inside, out of control, fearful, and have lack of awareness of our unhealed pasts - we view the external and our children through that same lens of lack. We try to control, fix, change, and judge. We think it is about them and if they just do this or that, or say “please,” or behave a certain way things will be better or different. But really it is US. It is US who needs to shift - it US who needs to evaluate to find our own peace. It is not anyone on the outside who needs to change to make us feel better. The peace, calm and joy we are looking for can only be found within ourselves. Our children, our spouse, our partners, our parents, our friends - they cannot provide this for us if we don’t first provide it for ourselves. We are the beacons of our own inner peace and we hold the keys to finding peace on the outside, when we stop looking for it to come from the outside. My take away lately is it is us who decides whether our relationship with our children are filled with joy or strife. ❤️ And thank you to @suzi.lula for her wisdom and guidance. You have always guided me to look within! 💜 ❤️ #thereisalwaysalesson #consciousparenting #michaelbrownpresenceprocess #intentionalparenting #peacefulparenting #unschoolingfamily

More gratitude...not only because staying in Grati

More gratitude...not only because staying in Gratitude is helping me find my way through this dark time in history but simply because I am so grateful for our family unit (all those pictured above AND those who are not pictured. We have a large blended unit and getting all of us in one place and getting a picture of all of us is challenging and rare). We did our first professional family photo shoot since our wedding. 😲 It was cold and windy, but everyone was a trooper. I promise next time we do a photo shoot it will be warm and not so windy, and hopefully it doesn’t take 8 years for us to do it again. However, Little G swears he is boycotting any future photo shoots. This was good practice for when we have the whole unit together - All four “kids,” all their significant others, our grandson, and us. Grateful they all put up with it and did it with a smile. Most of all I am grateful I am part of this blended family with lots of bonus parts. This unit is my rock, my heart, and are certainly the people who guide my path, help me grow in the deepest and most profound ways. Cheers to staying in gratitude...to ride this wave of energy right now...💕. Working hard to maintain my own inner peace.
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#emotional self-care

We can all make a difference. Every time we serve

We can all make a difference. Every time we serve with a heart full of love and grace we are shifting and creating ripples in the Universe. It is so true and I love this reminder. So often we hold ourselves back because we think we need this degree or that certificate to make a difference or to help others. Our culture perpetuates that belief system that we must “do,” achieve, or do something of recognition to be great or make a difference. That is not true. Our greatness is our unique essence. When we serve from our essence with love in our heart the greatness of our soul shines through, and the Universe surely feels it. #mlkquotes #servewithlove

Martin Luther King Jr. - His words speak the Ultim

Martin Luther King Jr. - His words speak the Ultimate Truth. Love and light will transform darkness. Let’s take it upon ourselves to only spread love and light, so we can drive out hate. #mlkday #loveandlight

I do see parenting as a practice. It is a practice

I do see parenting as a practice. It is a practice of daily reflection, moment-to-moment mindfulness, and slowing down to attune to ourselves and the little people we have been blessed with. It is a process of growing ourselves up and getting out of our child’s way. It isn’t easy. We want to control. We want it all to look a certain way. We have so many expectations. But as we go along releasing control and expectations we are able to grow with our child. I have to remind myself that the easy way is not always the most ideal way. It is a marathon. It can’t be rushed. And most of all I need to remember it will push me to limits and tear down beliefs I have held to be true but maybe aren’t true for me anymore. And this path will help me see the world through his eyes and in a new way. Connection, self-reflection, and more connection. Constant Reminder - It isn’t always easy. It takes great intention and self-reflection but in the end hopefully we have grown into more aware beings, have grown a deep lasting connection and partnership with our children. 💕 And just maybe we have left a ripple effect in the world that results in a more compassionate and peaceful place. #conciousparenting #intentionalparenting #handinhandparenting #Repost @hand_in_hand_parenting with @get_repost
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It's definitely not the "easy" way. And it's not permissive, or soft. What connected parenting gives you is deep understanding of your child's innerworld, emotions and behavior. And yours. And that's what moves you from automatic reactivity - yelling, punishing, and threatening, taking away “privileges”, blaming, and other mainstream control methods, to compassionate inquiry and the desire to reconnect with your child. In this new post, author of Conscious Parenting of Your Toddler and Hand in Hand Instructor @mihaelapl shares ways you can move away from reactivity and anger. Start with exploration, she suggests and begin with these two questions. How do you feel about anger?
How do you feel about your toddler’s anger? There's plenty more actionable strategies - and some great questions in the post. You'll find the link in our bio today. 👆

I love this! What a great reminder from @kellynews

I love this! What a great reminder from @kellynewsomegeorges.
We are conditioned to think we must earn our self-care or even earn love for that matter. But our love, self-love and self-care is not conditional on what we “do” but just by our being. By giving ourselves consistent self-care we can give from a full tank, and bring more nurturing and compassion out towards our children, others, and the world. #Repost @kellynewsomegeorges with @get_repost
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Let me tell you a secret: you don’t have to earn self-care. You don’t have to suffer before you do something that feels good. You don’t have to work hard to have a rest. You don’t have to stay up all night (although #newmomlife) to take a nap. You don’t have to push yourself to the max to hit pause regularly. You 👏🏽 don’t 👏🏽 have 👏🏽 to👏🏽have 👏🏽 a 👏🏽 breakdown 👏🏽 before you take a break. In fact, the more regular your care rituals, the more often you’ll feel like the highest, calmest, most resilient and joyful and aligned, version of yourself. And the more clearly you’ll see you big, beautiful, messy mama life. You can give more to others, more sustainably, from your full and centered place, yes. But you get to take care of yourself, mama - just because you EXIST. 🛑 Full stop. #selfcareformoms
#motherhoodishard #momminainteasy #momlife #motherhoodquotes #motherhoodunplugged #mamasgetreal #youareworthy #selfcarefirst #youdeserveit

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