I want to share with you a sweet story and my journey to creating my dream—Awakened Heart Parenting. I hope this glimpse into my journey and my inspirations will help you get to know me even better.
As I struggled with whether or not to use “Awakened Heart,” I decided to ask my son, Garrison, what he would call my business. I will ask my son these types of questions because I see him (while only 4 at the time) and ALL children as any other human being; they are deserving of our respect, and their opinion matter. Children have great insights if we take the time to listen, I have learned. Children are very connected to God/Source and sometimes they can provide us the simplest but most profound guidance. So I asked him, “what should mommy call her parenting coaching business?” He responded “Mommy Love,” then he said “Mommy Loves Garrison.” Then he gave me a big hug. It brings tears to my eyes just thinking about this because what he was expressing was that, to him, “parenting” means he knows I LOVE him. Parenting is about loving unconditionally and doing it with our children’s true essence and emotional well-being at the forefront of our decisions and reactions. I have tried to do this for Garrison as I have explored and grown as a parent. I have not been perfect by any means but the take away is “Mommy Love” or “Parent Love”– that our children know we love them no matter what and we are always there for them, and that we are committed to our connection with them. They need not have fear.
I didn’t choose “Mommy Love” as the name of my business for a few reasons, but most importantly I wasn’t sure it captured the deeper experience of conscious parenting, which is really the practice of going within ourselves to bring out a more nurturing environment for our children. Therefore, I settled on “Awakened Heart Parenting.” For me, this name captures that deep love we feel for our children, and at the same time learning to love our own inner child, the way we love and nurture our external children.
Thus, the name “Awakened Heart Parenting” has deep meaning for me and my family. As I pondered and pondered over the name for this business, I kept coming back to “Awakened Heart” as an essential part of the name. The reason is that “Awakened” describes the awareness that parenting, especially conscious parenting, asks of us. It is awareness of ourselves as parents, our unresolved emotions, our projections, judgments, worries, fears, joy, love, and experiences. It is an awareness of our child’s true nature and desires – not what we want them to be. An awakening to the fact that our children are our greatest guides, they have an uncanny ability to stir up our deepest triggers and show us where we most need to give ourselves love, compassion, and attention. Children do this too, because as we are able to look at ourselves and offer ourselves more self-compassion and self-love for our own hurts, pains, struggles – we, in turn, can bring that newly awakened compassion and empathy to our children’s big emotions, hurts, pains and struggles.
While it may be obvious why the word “Heart” seemed essential…here is a bit more into why it was essential for me in my business name. The word “Heart” represents for me that we must parent from the heart – attuning our heart with our child’s heart. Through awakening to our feelings within our own heart, it enables us to attune to what our children may be feeling within their heart in any given situation, and we can then connect on that heart-to-heart level with our children, and everyone else in our life. So that is what “Awakened Heart” means to me—really emphasizing parenting that is soul-to-soul and heart-to-heart.
I must also give credit where credit is due. Dr. Shefali Tsabary, one of my guiding lights in the field of Conscious Parenting authored her book called “Awakened Family” and her teachings have had a profound effect on my psyche and I have no doubt that this why “Awakened Heart Parenting” stuck with me and no other names we came up with seemed to touch my heart and feel right for me. Therefore, I honor Dr. Shefali’s work and her contributions to enlightening mankind, and in particular raising awareness of conscious parenting in the name of my business.